Fall is the time for “cuddle buddies”, finding new relationships and lovers (hence the term “cuffing season”), however dating has become more complicated and impersonal in recent years. If you have been following my articles, you will know that I have previously written about how technology affects our intimate relationships in my piece titled “Love, Lust, and Electronics: Technology vs. Romance”. Here, I will be describing the certain pressures and expectations that come along with the holiday season:
1) People will cause you to feel pressured to be in a relationship or find a relationship during this time of year because “it is no fun” to enjoy the holidays alone. Do not fall for people’s false expectation of reality. Many individuals forget that being alone can help promote personal growth, and has its own personal set of freedoms.
2) It makes sense to want to have a special someone for couple costumes, sharing Thanksgiving dinner with, and cuddling in front of the fireplace on Christmas Eve. However, these things are just as great with friends and family. There will always be time to find love, but we cannot forget to love the ones we have right in front of us.
3) Dating is difficult during this day and age due to the fact that much of our personal interaction occurs electronically. The holidays are the time to surround yourself with loved ones, not to be glue to a screen. Even though many “relationship goals” surface during this season and cause jealousy in many. Go out and meet people and/or spend time with the people you already have in your life. Social media is not all that special.
4) Just because people around you are in relationships does not mean you have to follow the crowd. Most of the time the good things you think you are missing out on are just smoke and mirrors anyway. Your time will come, and it may not be this holiday season. That is perfectly okay.
Just remember that the holidays are for love overall, not loving a single individual. Have fun, and do you!